June 23, 2008 by 8junebugs
It’s wedding-planning season in these parts and a handful of my friends are experiencing the joy of setting up Life-Changing Events They Will Remember Forever And Ever Amen.
I am not about to write about planning a wedding. I suck at it, I left most of it to the other party, and it didn’t stick, so clearly, mine is not the advice you want.
I will say a few things, though, that I have learned from friends, family, and experience about how to not regret your wedding day.
- Pick the right partner. This will add immeasurably to the glory of the event.
- If you’re doing the big gown/tux/attendants thing, pick your priorities. There are a billion moving pieces and the more people you include and invite, the more opinions you will have to hear and/or deal with. If you care equally about flowers, food, music, cake, and the color of the bridesmaids’ eye shadow, hire a professional. Wedding planner or shrink–your call. (Don’t skimp–hire both!)
- In the end, it really is your day, and that means both of you. Do not fall for that “it’s for the family” crap. If you don’t like parties (or being the center of attention), this is not the occasion to have to try to be someone you’re not. When you look back, be happy, not mortified.
- If you’re female and your mother’s involved, recognize that she may already have planned your wedding. You just don’t know it yet. Brace yourself.
- If the last thing in the world you want to think about is the where, when, who, and how, think about the why. And go read this excellent post on the pros and cons of eloping. (via notmartha)
Last but not least, two words: Open. Bar.