December 31, 2018 by 8junebugs
1. What did you do in 2018 that you’d never done before? Got a haircut that involves clippers. Also ran a Turkey Trot and had laparoscopic surgery.
2. Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year? I’ve been better this year about staying on top of thyroid stuff, so win? I don’t make resolutions and I don’t think I picked a word for the year.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth? Not very close, but yes!
And let me just capture this little bit of woo: My mom very, very, very much wanted more than two children. She came really close to having three. This year, within days of the 10th anniversary of Mom’s death, the wonderful family living in our old home welcomed their third baby…who entered the world at home, in that house.
If those walls could burst with 40+ years of love and joy, they would. The gratitude in my heart for the chance to witness so much new life there is off the charts.
4. Did anyone close to you die? Not this year.
5. What places did you visit? Bodies of water in Redding and Folsom. Gardnerville. (I had a rather anti-travel year.)
6. What would you like to have in 2019 that you lacked in 2018? A more manageable budget and a 2K in the 1:50s.
Additional: There was a moment during the Thanksgiving break when the stars aligned and one of my dearest friends, on my side of the hills a little early for a medical appointment, stopped by for a cup of coffee while I was baking and doing a little Christmas decorating.
This is something we both remember from our own childhoods — people chatting over coffee at our moms’ (and my grandmothers’) kitchen tables. Or, in mom’s case, sitting at what we would now call a peninsula, but back then just called the counter.
It doesn’t happen like that anymore. “Going out for coffee” is a thing, a destination instead of a matter-of-course moment in your week, a way to let off steam without a three-layer espresso order. These days, it feels like everything needs to be an event, instead of just a moment of connection in an otherwise hectic day.
2019 needs more impromptu warm beverages with friends at the kitchen table. Give me a ten-minute warning and the coffee will be fresh.
7. What dates from 2018 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? December 17, when I bid farewell to periods and pill packs forever! (I get to keep pap smears, thanks to a little scar tissue adhering my bladder to my unremoved cervix.)
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? I got back on the water and worked my ass off. It came back faster than I’d hoped, which was awesome until my uterus got in the way.
I also lost about 40lbs over the course of the year while maintaining muscle mass…in spite of medical crap that specifically interfered with my fitness.
9. What was your biggest failure? I tried to set two people up romantically. I have historically avoided that for a reason and I’m resolved that this was the last time. (They have each found someone else without my ham-handed help.)
10. Did you suffer illness or injury? Bronchitis nailed all of us harder than usual this year and my uterus has been a total asshole.
11. What was the best thing you bought? Zoo Camp. Swim/skating/hockey lessons. Passes to Kids Gym. Playschool for Alex. A haircut and color I really like.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration? We’ve been getting better about asking for help. The friends (and grandfathers) who’ve jumped in to make some things possible this year are worth their weight in gold.
Also, big shout out to our favorite sitter, who is so beloved that the baby includes her in his recitations of who is going to bed in our family each night.
13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed? Still Trump supporters. He’s so incredibly gross and cruel and dumb and I can’t stomach folks who are comfortable with him at the helm. Fully 99% of the people I know are more harmed than helped by this administration’s policies, which just makes it more…well, baffling or enraging, depending on the day.
14. Where did most of your money go? Saving Rodney’s life was really expensive.
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about? I’M BACK TRAINING WITH MY CREW YAYAYAYAY!!! (I mean, not at the moment. At the moment, I’m still recovering from surgery and coxing for a bit, but otherwise…)
16. What song will always remind you of 2018? Burn The House Down by AJR. It scratched the right itch at the right time and sparked the conversation in which I taught Grayson about metaphors.
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) happier or sadder? Happier.
b) thinner or fatter? A good bit thinner. Also fitter and stronger.
c) richer or poorer? Poorer, I think.
18. What do you wish you’d done more of? Writing and knitting.
19. What do you wish you’d done less of? Driving children around. This is in direct contradiction of #11, but you’ll have that.
20. How did you spend Christmas in 2018? Recovering from a hysterectomy.
21. Did you fall in love in 2018? With each new version of each child, yes. Mostly.
22. What was your favorite TV program? Welcome back, Murphy Brown! And also farewell, again.
23. What did you do for your birthday in 2018? A 90-minute “sports” massage.
24. What was the best book you read? Working my way through “So You Want To Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo, which is easily the best and most important thing I’ve read in a long time. (It’s not fair to the author that she’s in little company — I haven’t read much this year.)
25. What did you want and get? A seat in a fast boat for Nationals on Lake Merritt.
26. What did you want and not get? More racing. Head racing season went a bit sideways.
27. What was your favorite film of this year? Blindspotting. No contest.
28. Did you make some new friends this year? Yes!
29. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? More sleep (for everyone).
30. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2018? Frustrated would-be gym rat.
31. What kept you sane? Crew.
32. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? Hannah Gadsby. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez. Kamala Harris.
33. What political issue stirred you the most? There are still thousands of children in tents and cages on our border, separated from their parents by our government. THE U.S. GOVERNMENT IS KIDNAPPING CHILDREN and I fucking can’t with people who think that’s even remotely okay.
34. Whom did you miss? My extended family. Modern parenting is a little bananas and I’d give anything for Sunday lunches at my grandparents’ farm with a pile of cousins in the yard.
35. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2018. It’s not about having time. It’s about making time.
What’s this year’s word?
Three words: Fit. Fast. Fierce.
On the water and off.